30+30+30 = 90 days!

The thought process behind 90 days is that the first 30 days is meant to break the habit, the second 30 days is to create the new habit, and the last 30 days of the 90 days is to lock in whatever you are trying to achieve.

If you told me a year ago today that I’ve embraced an entire new path and a new way of living through sobriety, I would’ve looked at you, rolled my eyes, and laughed. But now I have the biggest smile across my face because I am happy, proud of myself, healthy, and feel such calmness again. I have surrounded myself with so many new friends, rekindled a lot of relationships, and I am growing into the beautiful strong woman I am meant to be. I am finding a new happiness which includes finding ways to have fun alongside friends and loved ones without alcohol.

Thankfully I did receive treatment at High Watch recovery center in Connecticut, where I was able to find myself again. I started to write in journal again which is a huge passion of mine, I was able to experience equine therapy, I made friendships that are going to last a lifetime, I went hiking on very challenging hikes, I made a Dreamcatcher and bracelets in jewelry class, I spoke at chapel about my real life experiences in front of complete strangers, I offered to help in any which way that I could at any moment my service was needed, I have been beyond humble admitting so many of my defects, but this is just the beginning of so many adventures I plan to take.

Many people have been asking what my secret is? And I pretty much just did exactly what I was told to do because I was so lost I had no clue WHAT to do! So my best advice is sit back and listen and enjoy the ride! I needed treatment and professional help so therapy is definitely a number one for me, I did my 90 meetings in 90 days, I got a sponsor and many sober friends to support me, my family has rallied and came together to assist in any of my needs during this time, and of course I avoid people, places, and things that will trigger me. Although it has not been easy, and I did have to shut the door on many years of friendships at the moment because they are very toxic to my sobriety. It does not mean that I no longer love these people, but right now in my journey they are not good for me.

Sending my grateful list in the mornings always brings me sunshine to any day! I highly recommend introducing yourself as a newcomer to meetings, slowly you’ll obtain phone numbers, and eventually send 3 to 5 things you are grateful for every day which can lead to sparking up conversations, hobbies, interest in social events, and before you know it you are immersed into this AA world. I know what you’re thinking, is she brainwashed this quickly? And I thought the same thing, I was so against trying this mumble jumble stuff, but I promise you if you are 100% willing to try, and just listen and take in what works for you, you can do it too!